Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!! This past weekend, the hubs and I went to a marriage conference at a friend’s church to enrich our marriage. It was really interesting despite the religious differences that the hubs and I share. Don’t worry, we are doing really great! It is best to go to these things for prevention rather than a last stitched effort.
After the conference on Saturday night, I got to thinking. While living in Germany, a lot of people I know had known a couple or had been the victim of the “Ironman Curse” where the intense training hours supposedly brought on divorce. In my opinion, these people probably had problems to begin with and the long training hours (I get up to 18 hours during my heavy weeks) only exacerbated them. Plus, some people can become quite obsessed with running and/or and triathlon that they put their family 2nd.
I don’t see this happening to the hubs and I, but I did a little research that I thought would help me as well as you guys to keep this from happening. The truth is: I’m NOT married to triathlon or running. Family MUST come 1st. Here are some ways to keep you from catching the “Ironman Curse”!! It sounds like a disease, doesn’t it?
- Don’t just think of only yourself when you are planning your workouts out. Do you have kids? Who is going to watch them? Don’t think your spouse is going to watch them all the time while you go out and train. That is a sure fire way to cause some tension in the house. You shouldn’t automatically get a “free pass” on housework/child care/errands just because you are training for a race. This is a hobby that you chose to participate in. Triathlon/Running training shouldn’t be a higher priority than taking care of your family.
- Multitask. Cycle/run to work or on your lunch breaks. The hubs and I used to cycle to work while we lived in Germany. A lot of times, it takes the same amount of time to cycle somewhere as it does to drive!!
- Incorporate the family. If you have kids: have them ride their bikes next to you while you run. My sister and I used to do that with my mom when we were younger. We got some exercise, and so did she! The hubs and I are always going on bike rides together on the weekends when the weather is warmer. We also do some hiking and rock climbing together!! Those count as workouts!!
- Get up early before everyone else does. Get your swims/runs/cycling (even if it is on the trainer) done in the mornings before work if you know your family will be around after work.
- Be your family’s cheerleader just as much as they are to you. The hubs comes to all of my races when he isn’t working and carries all my crap around plus takes pictures. He never complains and is always encouraging. He isn’t much of a race person himself, so when he signed up for the Leadville 100 (100 mile running race) this year, I was excited. I also cleared my schedule for that weekend. There were a few races that were happening that weekend that I wanted to do, but there will always be more races for me to do. It is time for me to step up to the plate and support the hubs like he supports me all the time!! (I was trying to tell him good luck on his leg of this relay while being out of breath here, haha).
- Be present. When you actually do spend time with your family, put your cell phone and laptop away. Don’t go on and on about triathlon and/or running. It can get boring especially for people who don’t really do all the same things that you do. The hubs and I talk about triathlon/running, but that isn’t the majority of our conversations. I am so much more than a triathlete/runner.
When you are old and your body is falling apart, triathlon/running isn’t going to be there to take care of you. Your family will be. And if you died tomorrow, wouldn’t you want to go with no regrets about the time spent with your family?
Ta ta for now!! The hubs and I are staying in for Valentine’s Day with the puppy and cuddling.
What are you doing tonight? Anything special?
Do you have any tips to not annoy your family with your training?