Wow. It is amazing how 10 years have passed since high school. To tell you the truth, I’m kinda in shock that I will be attending my 10 year reunion on tonight. I really don’t know what to expect either. I’ve noticed many of the “popular” crowd attending via the H.S. Reunion facebook page. I hope the nerds show up!! Otherwise it might just be the hubs and I drinking by ourselves. That wouldn’t be a bad thing either.
High school was NOT the best time in my life. My self-confidence was at an all time low, and to top it off, my family had just moved to Albuquerque the summer before I started my freshman year. I knew no one but my cousin who was the same age. It was rough to say the least. Kids can be so mean!
I was so awkward and clumsy (some of it still hasn’t worn off today :)). My limbs were so long compared to the rest of my body, my face still hadn’t really grown into my nose, my feet were huge, I still had braces, and let’s just say puberty didn’t officially occur until I was 17.
I tripped a lot, got called Pinocchio, Big Nose, and Anorexic (I was an out of shape skinny kid who ate Sonic jr. bacon cheeseburgers with an ocean water or KFC chicken everyday for lunch–I ate, trust me).
Some not so great experiences:
- I fell down some stairs my freshman year, and as I laid mangled at the bottom of the stairs with my books spread out everywhere on the ground, people just pointed and laughed.
- Our gym coach left it up to two guys in our P.E. class to pick teams for soccer. I was literally the last person to be picked, and the guy whose team I had to be on threw a fit that I had to be on the team. He called me “useless.”
- I had been chatting it up with a cheerleader during my chemistry class, and practically did her entire project for her. Once the project was turned in, I no longer existed.
- I tried out for the swim team when they were taking practically anyone that could float, and they did not take me. All I needed was a little stroke improvement suggestions from the coach. He was an ass.
- I had my first date my junior year at 17, and I was SOOOO nervous. I was shaking. It was with a senior wrestler, and he invited me out to dinner and for a rented movie at his house. Of course, the only working VCR (yeah, right) was in his parent’s bedroom who happened to be out of town. How convenient!!! I remember lying in bed next to him so nervous about the fact that I knew a kiss was imminent. After the movie, he asked if he could kiss me, and I said, “Okay, if you want to.” It was my first kiss, and it did not go well. I had no clue what to do, and I was so insecure about my braces. I’m laughing right now thinking about this incredibly awkward moment, but it was so traumatizing at the time. I think he gathered from that one kiss that he would not be getting “any” that night. The next week, and I asked him to winter ball and he promptly said no.
I did have some great experiences once I finally started accepting myself for me though. Unfortunately this didn’t come really until my senior year. I got my braces off, and I finally started developing some breasts (“some” is the key word there).
- I know I sound like a nerd here, but Speech and Debate was going really well for me. I was placing at most tournaments that I went to. I had found a group of friends who liked doing the same things that I did, and we did have some crazy adventures.
- Theater was going well, and I was completely comfortable taking charge of the happenings on and off stage with several stage manager roles with different plays.
- People were starting to talk to me more and vise versa, but I think that was the result of the changes within myself. I came out of my shell, and my confidence was growing.
Tips I would give myself to survive high school a little less painfully:
- Don’t be afraid of who you are. Accept yourself. You are a nerd. Get over it, and if people are so insecure that they have to make fun that, they can go F&*^% themselves. Really.
- Most teeenagers ARE awkward, and a lot times their insecurities can manifest into mean comments. This has nothing to do with you. It is their problem NOT yours.
- Enjoy as much as you can. This time will go by fast. Don’t be an angry bitter teenager.
- Don’t do homework for other people just because you want them to be your friend or anything else that you are not comfortable doing. You would think this would be a “no brainer,” but it is so easy to fall into that trap of wanting to be “popular.” If you have to do things like that just so you will have friends, you will never gain their respect and REAL friendship.
- Never fall for the “only working VCR in a bedroom” trick. haha. Beware of horny teenage boys. haha. In a few years, those boys who didn’t give you a second look will hit on you in a bar and have no clue who you are.
- Lay off the junk food!
- Do something that scares you every day. I do this now, but I wasn’t always like this. I would of joined the track team even though I would have been intimidated. I think I would have been a better runner than I am today had a started earlier than my sophomore year of high school.
- Listen to your parents. They know more than you think!
Well, I’m off to hang out with family for the rest of the day before the reunion dinner tonight. We shall see how it goes!! 😉
What was high school like for you?? Did you like it? Were you confident or were you as awkward as me? 😉